I fell in love with a girl on the Internet. It started off innocently enough. We were playing Word Twist (RIP) on Facebook and she kept crushing me. Finally we became facebook friends and started chatting in between games.
She was from Malaysia and owned a chain of gyms and beauty salons. She was also beautiful. Somehow she seemed to know every word in the English language and was crushing me. I'm pretty good at word games so this not only surprised me, but also turned me on.
We would chat for hours via facebook messenger. I really felt like I could go over to Malaysia, marry her, and help her run her chain of gyms for the rest of my life. I would tell her this.
She would "LOL" because she was engaged and one day I saw photos of her getting married. I should mention I was married at the time also, although soon divorced. We still kept playing Word Twist.
One time she had a status update: "The Only Good Jew is a Dead Jew". Her update had over 600 likes and it had only been up for an hour. It seemed like everyone she knew hated Jews. I didn't know what to do. I thought about unfriending her right away. But I was really surprised. I didn't understand.
I wrote to her and said, "I'm wondering if your update includes me. I'm Jewish. Do you think I would be better off dead?"
She wrote back, "Haha. Off course, not you!"
A week later I checked back and not only she had un-friended me but she must have blocked me because it looked like her account no longer existed.
Facebook is this great thing that connects people around the world. But I forgot it's not like a little town with all my high school friends.
Here was this woman, halfway around the world, who put up what she thought was a normal update and over 600 of her friends immediately liked it. There were also dozens of comments like "You said it!" She was from a completely different world than me.
All of these seemingly normal, supposedly educated, people filled with all of this anger.
The world is an angry place although we are slowly getting more and more unified. I mean, 100 years ago there would've been no way to play Word Twist with a girl in Malaysia. Even 30 years ago.
The world has gradually moved towards unification over the past three thousand years: tribes turned to cities, turned to kingdoms, turned to empires, turned to religions and now, believe it or not, social media is tying up this evolutionary loose end and globally unifying the human race.
Eventually it will happen. But for now there is still this anger and blind hate. Anger and blind hate is very stressful to hold onto. Takes up a lot of daily energy. Remember the last time you woke up with hate or anger? Maybe this morning. What a drag then to continue on with the day.
How do you take the next evolutionary step and become a better human?
Try to avoid "us" vs "them" thinking. No matter what the issue. We're all humans. We're all scared for our families and our futures. We all want to love and to achieve. Don't be a hater. Be grateful. Don't translate that magic power into hate or regret or anxiety. Just be grateful. This moment I can hear birds outside chirping and flitting in and around the melting snow. The fog splitting the sun's rays into shades of early spring mixed with late Winter. What can you hear right now?