A friend of mine died two years ago from melanoma. He rang me the day he got his diagnosis and told me he had been given six weeks to live but he was feeling OK. He only just made the six weeks. He decided to get his life in order for his family.
He came to work two days later to pack up his things and send his final farewell emails. It was his 56th birthday so we decided to have a cake. He blew out the candles and one of the girls got a bit flustered and excited and asked him what he wanted for his birthday, he said "very short books". He was a funny soul and well liked.
A week before he died he rang from his bed to tell me that he was able to get an early pay out from his superannuation and that he had paid the house off for his wife.He said he thought he would never live to see the day. He only just made it.
The most amazing thing he did for his wife though. He wrote a whole heap of post-it notes and hid them all around the house. He hid them in places that he knew she would not have the heart to shift, move or clean for some time, such as his hobby room, clothes, shed etc. The notes said such things as "Spend the money and enjoy yourself''; "Sell my car you don't need it''; "Move on’ I will Love you Always".
She was still finding them nine months after his death and they are now some of the most cherished things she has. He remained connected to her way after he passed. Gene was a cool person.
Express your love. Many die with a feeling, they had lot to say. Stay alive with the glory of love.